by sheydeahqb | 6:24 PM

​Relaxed hair has gone through a chemical process which removes the strong curl in hair, making it somewhat straight, or “relaxed”. 

Natural hair is when hair has not been altered by hot combs, flat irons, or chemicals (through perming, relaxation, or other straightening methods).

seriously it depends on how you can maintain both state of hair. there was a time i was on natural form with hair, then one day i relaxed it. later went back to my been natural till i decided i want to be on low cut. 

I have seen comments about natural vs. relaxed. with natural hair community growing ever so rapidly, there seems to be a wide range of opinions on how people should wear and not wear their hair. 
I see no reason to debate about which is better or worse. All hair has its negatives and positives. How you choose to care for your hair will determine its health and beauty. 
care for healthy relaxed hair

Relaxing method:

  • do nor relax your hair every time a new growth grows out. 
  • once every three month is a perfect time to relax your hair. which makes it four times in a year. 

choosing the right relaxer: there are three types of relaxer, and basically it categorised for the three main texture of hair “fine hair, medium hair and coarse hair”

The three types of relaxers are

  • Sodium hydroxide relaxers are commonly called lye relaxers. Lye relaxers can be used on wavy, curly or coily hair
  • calcium hydroxide: No-lye relaxers, aka calcium hydroxide relaxers, are designed for sensitive scalps and can also be used on curly, coily or wavy textures
  • ammonium thioglycolate: it’s great for straightening fine, curly or wavy hair.

Relaxer strength 

  • Regular  for fine hair, it is great fot this type of texture 
  • medium relaxer is great for the medium type of hair “not too full and not too coarse”
  • super relaxer: it works fine for the coarse hair. 


  • for skin that is not too oily or too dry you probably only need to wash it once or twice a week
  • for greasy scalp you might want to wash often like three times. 

shampoo and conditioner 

  • moisturizing shampoo and conditioner that detangles well
  • normal shampoo: 

NB: after applying the relaxer to your hair, make sure a neutralizing shampoo is used to wash the hair. it stops the action of the chemical on the hair. do not wash your hair with your bathing soap after relaxer. 

do’s and don’t for a healthy relaxed hair

  • trim your edges regularly to get rid of split ends
  • avoid heat such as ‘”tonging, flat iron or any form of heat straightening method’to avoid damage
  • a balanced protein and moisture treatment is needed but too much of this might lead to hair breakage 
  • drink plenty of water 
  • eat balanced meal
  • use quality products


  • don’t comb your hair when it is wet
  • don’t put your relaxer in, try get a professional Stylist
  • don’t use grease on your hair, it will attract foreign bodies such as dirt and it will make the hair heavy
  • don’t wash, scratch or comb hair before relaxing 
  • don’t mix two products together when relaxing 

care for healthy natural hair

natural hair terms meaning 

  • BC – big chop
  • DC – deep conditioning 
  • PS – protective styles
  • DIY – Do It Yourself
  • EO – Essential Oil
  • ACV- Apple Cider Vinegar 
  • Co-Wash- Using conditioner to wash the hair in place of shampoo
  • EVOO- Extra Virgin Olive Oil 
  • EVCO- Extra Virgin Coconut Oil
  • Transitioning – This is the period of time since one’s last relaxer.
  • TWA- Teeny Weeny Afro
  • Twist Out: Two strand twist the hair, allow to dry either by air drying or sitting under a dryer, take the twists apart, and style.
  • Wash and Go- Simply co-wash your hair, add a styler (gel, cream) and GO You leave the hair to air dry or dry with a diffuser. 
  • AYP- add yours please “smile”


Shampoo with Natural Moisturizing Oil — Use oil-based moisturizing shampoo to seal in water. This keeps your hair moisturized longer. Go for moisturizing shampoos that contains natural oils like jojoba, avocado, grape seed, tea tree oil, olive oil, coconut oil and emu oil.

deep conditioning 

Hair that is deep conditioned regularly is more manageable, softer, less prone to breakage and frizz, and is able to retain length.  Some naturalistas and transitioners deep condition their hair 3-4 days while some every 2 weeks but when i was on natural form i do this once a week but if your hair begins feeling weak and limp, lessen to every two or three weeks. If it still feels dry, pump it up to twice a week.
If you want your deep conditioner to work double duty and make your hair feel super soft and smooth (or super strong if it is protein based), heat it up. Try heating your deep conditioner in a hot water bath instead of the microwave for best results.
Alternating your deep conditioning sessions between moisture and protein will help keep your hair soft, strong, nourished, and minimize breakage, aiding in growth and length retention
However, starting with the ends of your hair is the most beneficial, because your ends are the oldest, driest, and most prone to breakage and splitting. By starting with your ends, you allow them a little more time to soak up and adsorb all of the deep conditioning goodness your product has to offer.

    Egg conditioner


        • Egg yolk- 1 egg
        • Olive oil- 2 spoons
        • Mayonnaise- 2 spoons

        Take a bowl and add all the above 3 things into it. Blend it well and apply this on the hair and leave it on for 30 minutes. After that, wash it off with shampoo. This DIY conditioner is a deep conditioner for hair and will make the hair very smooth and silky.
        Coconut milk conditioner


        • Coconut milk- 3 spoons
        • Olive oil- 2 spoons

        This conditioner works best for extremely dry hair. Mix both the ingredients and apply it on the hair before bath and leave it on for 30 minutes and then wash it off.
        banana conditioner


        • Ripe Banana- 1
        • Honey- 1 spoon
        • Extra- virgin olive oil- 3 spoons
        • Yogurt- 1/4 cup

        Mash up the banana well and add the yogurt, olive oil, and honey into a bowl along with banana. Mix it all well until you get a nicely blended mixture. Make sure the banana is mashed well or else it might not go away after washing. Apply this conditioner on well combed hair and put a shower cap and leave it on for half an hour. Rinse the hair after that.
        heat: when i was on natural hair, I tried as much a possible to avoid heat directly on my hair but during blow out i used heat protectant serum for my hair. 


        • understand your hair type 
        • be it natural or relaxed be proud of your hair 
        • always read the instructions manual on your products 
        • use quality products only
        • own a satin bonnet to retain moisture over night
        • eat right 
        • love your hair 





        Wow, thanks bestie for this wonderful tips

        Sep 26.2016 | 06:34 pm

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